The “Maureen Dowd” syndrome……..
ggreen67 said…
Here is the comment I sent to Forbes. Cannot email Ms. Huffington directly.
“Ms. Huffington,
I feel there is one very obvious fact not addressed in your article. The fact most women, regardless of status, always want to “marry-up”. Women of status that cannot “marry-up” are left to two choices. Search for an equal, or “marry-down”. The problem here lies in how women treat men that are not of equal, or greater status than they. Women are often very disrespectful to men who they feel are not successful (less status than they).
Usually this is not verbally expressed (behind closed doors is another story), but is usually again, obvious.
Also, to “marry-down� is always going to be her last choice. Just like females, strong, independent males have no desire to enter any relationship where they know they are the last of all options.
So it cannot be concluded that men are afraid of women with money (status), but just do not wish to partake in the disrespect and belittlement that accompany such a partner.”
7:11 AM
hadley504 said…
How is this not a knock-off of MoDo’s goofy gibberish “Are Men Necessary?” Both are using bland humor to mask their indignation that men can’t and won’t be trained to find them attractive when they, well, aren’t.
She is using the classic playground stratagem of getting guys to do things by suggesting they are afraid.
Why are women so confused about something so simple?
7:55 AM
James said…
hmm Ms. Huffington is off in my point. Because what guy isn’t attracted to marrying a girl in a wealthy family? I dont know about you but I have no turn-off seeing women who have very wealthy families, not that it actually matters to me personally. Aside from myself, MANY MEN TRY TO MARRY INTO WEALTHY POWERFUL FAMILIES. IN FACT THERE ARE TONS OF SUITORS FOR GIRLS LIKE THIS!
The problem is that with women in high powered careers. That is a different matter all together. As men we are DRAWN to what in our nature is somewhat void.
“A ball-busting career, competitive chick is something we already are”.
Therefore we are not drawn. Whose going to take care of the kids while both of us are competing in the workplace, some stranger? How is that a partnership if both of us are doing our OWN individual thing? Women have a biological imperative for relationships and children. Yet what they are being fed throws monkey wrenches into the gears of this. Just look at the childless rate of women with careers (55% of serious career women over 35 are childless!)
8:00 AM
Bob H said…
Huffington is the just the second coming of Maureen Dowd. (Dowd has made a career of being obnoxious.) Being in a relationship with a rich, independent, smart woman is just fine as long as she is a committed ally. The problem is when you do something she doesn’t like and she turns into a rich, independent, smart, committed mortal enemy.
9:12 AM
PolishKnight said…
The way she couched the question: Men “afraid” of something, sounds patronizing and belitting. But indeed, the question does beg a response: Why should men dislike women with money one way or the other?
The answer is that men don’t see a lot of use for women with money since he is still expected to be a breadwinner one way or the other anyway. It’s like a woman not seeing much use for a man who likes to look after babies. That skill may be useful, certainly, but if it undermines masculine traits then forget him.
In the case of the rich man cheating with his nanny, it’s possible that the nanny just spent a lot more time with him. Duh!
The phrase “scared men” is popular with many such women as a shaming ploy. “confident” men shouldn’t mind ball busting, selfish women right? What’s wrong with other men who don’t appreciate the “challenge?” It’s like a child who doesn’t understand why their parents don’t enjoy him dumping his food on the floor. Don’t they see the fun of it?
10:50 AM
Christianj said…
This is another female on the “shame and blame” routine aka the “untouchable Maureen Dowd” syndrome.
Dowd has been abusing and screaming foul about males for as long as I can remember. Now she feels that it time for someone to worship her, A male ofcourse.
But like sensible males, no-one wants to have anything to do with this harpie, this shrew.
Women have to realise that in order to have a relationship it takes an effort and that she cannot always get what she wants and demands.
The “Dowd syndrome” will spread and increase until women wake up to the fact that marriage is out of the question as the risk are worse for a male than going into combat.